It has always been assumed that rape, apart from a sexual violation, is also an act of asserting dominance or power over the victim. Most rapists have the mentality of ‘opportunists’, according to scientific research. The ‘opportunists’ rape whenever they have the occasion to, without particular pre-meditation.
This means that the primary requirements for men who rape, are basically as little as— female and breathing (sometimes, not even that). Clearly, this points back to the #YesAllWomen debate, where anyone around a woman could be a rapist— family, friend, acquaintance or boss.
Still, at the end of the day, you would assume that there are still some bonds between men and women that can surely avoid the element of sexual violence, right? Well, you assumed wrong, especially in the light of this news from Delhi.
Over the first week of July 2017, a Delhi woman left her three-year-old daughter with her husband, while she visited her parents’ home with her other daughter. The couple lived in a rented flat in north Delhi’s Sarai Rohilla area.
Soon after returning, she realised that her three-year-old daughter had been more irritable and sullen than usual. She would cry frequently and refused to eat food. She also noticed the girl fidgeting and complaining about irritation in her genital area.
Upon pressing for more information, the three-year-old child revealed that her father had raped her, while alone. He had also threatened his daughter with violence against telling her mother.
The mother of the young girl went straight to the police on July 9, 2017, and filed an FIR against her husband and a case has been registered under Protection Of Children from Sexual Offences Act, 2012.
The woman also revealed to the police, how her husband always wanted sons, and therefore deliberately misbehaved with his daughters.
Honestly, we’re just relieved that the Delhi mother reported her husband, as previous research in 2014 found, that 97.7 percent rapists were members of the family (usually husbands or uncles), and only 0.6 percent (then) of familial rapes committed were reported. In most cases, it is considered a ‘family matter’ and hushed up.